Long ago I learned that to build a house we needed the same basic as building a relation to a long lasting marriage.
I heard it over and over again, the basis is the foundation. When the foundation is strong that the house can become a Cathedral which will stand strong even if war was imminent.
The walls might shake and ceiling might crumble but the foundation will stand still.
In my twenties I understood that and when I met the love of my life, I knew we could build a cathedral together. We started as friends and build up our relationship over the next ten years and I thought we knew each other pretty well...
And when the moment came to have the main room built I was all in as our foundation was strong and steady! Boy I was wrong!
I was the only one believing in this fake relationship. He just wanted to possess me. HE never thought of me of his wife or the mother of his children.
I had dreams of him being my husband and the father of my children...
My foundation was only in my head as in reality it was just crumbles and this relationship could not stand a light storm.
I was willing to sacrifice and fight for our family while all he wants is to destroy everyone in the house.
I was willing to give up my career to support him while he laid on the sofa waiting for me to bring a job offer on a silver plate.
I was willing to be the housewife and a stay home mom to make him succeed while he just went on to pubs and watched manchester united lose over and over.
I was willing to care for our children day and night but he cared more about if his team MANU is gone win or not than our children.
I was willing to move on the other side of the world to satisfy him while he sat on the computer watching porn.
IT WAS ABOUT HIM, HIS AND HIMSELF...
NOTHING ABOUT FAMILY, GATHERING, CARING AND COMPASSION.
But today, after 16 months without my children, I am still standing because of my foundation. I know my roots are deep and tied strongly.
They are holding me up.
My tower has been shaken but it did not break.
My values and my belief are the core of my foundation and the truth above all is the basic fundamental of any foundation.
As long as I stand by the truth my foundation will never shake.
My children are my life and until we are reunited I will never stop looking for the truth to shine the light on the dirt that was thrown on my tower.